faux real

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top: Uniqlo (Men’s)
trench: H&M
jeans: vintage D&G
belt: H&M
booties: Nine West
sunglasses: Michael Kors (similar)

Faux vs Real fur. Such a touchy subject, fur real (pun intended). Controversial without a perfect solution that wouldn’t offend either sides of this argument. One will argue even faking the idea of fur is condoning the idea of wearing an animal. I get it, I love animals and I believe that they should be treated fairly. Sadly, I will admit that I do fancy the luxuriousness of fur. I’m going to share with you some factors for consideration so you can draw your own conclusion about fur:

Faux fur – Allows similar look and feel for the fraction of the price and it’s animal friendly. This is don as the ‘greener’ option but personally, it is not considered a fully environmentally-friendly option. Faux fur is made of synthetic fibers so once it’s disposed, it will be but another non-biodegradable object in landfill. Also, many times faux fur is made of acrylic, which is carcinogenic for factory workers who work with this chemical in high heat, but we shall save that discussion for another day. Ultimately, it has been found that fake fur IS at least a few times better for the environment than buying real fur because the treatments and processes done to preserve actual fur are not necessary for fake fur.

Real fur – ‘The real deal’. I do own real fur; However, I will not buy ‘new’ fur. I refer to ‘new’ fur as fresh kill (sorry to be so graphic), available in stores. You are this animal’s first owner. That is a lot of commitment and responsibility; are you going to love that piece for the rest of your life?! View it as buying a pet, don’t stop loving it once it’s not ‘in season’ anymore. Personally, my moral way of purchasing real fur is thrifting. It’s like adopting your fur piece before it is unloved and sent to the landfill graveyard. This piece is now abandoned with a second chance to find a new owner who will care for it, the animal(s) lost it’s life, and you want real fur.

Sending you off with some food for thought and a little Miley face!

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Photos by Tomas. Check out more of his work here at: LeftLane Photography

xo,tfny.

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food for thought: life is sweet

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Let’s just start off by saying this is so hard for me to do. To let people into the personal but I think or I hope from this, somewhere someone will find this helpful:

UH HUH, HONEY. We will all have our time to shine, I promise. Life is good. This year has honestly been the best year ever. Why? Because all my closest friends moved away from home, I dealt with a break up that revealed a lot of dirty truths, and sticky situations at the home front. Doesn’t that sound a lot like perfection? Cutting the sarcasm, everything happened the way it did and opened my eyes. What I learned:

Friendship – I would have never gotten closer to the people I am with today if I never broke down my barriers. I used to be the type to rely on my support system and stuck with the same bubble of friends. Maybe it’s a San Franciscan thing, we like our cliques. Having my closest friends further away, I built paths for me to break out of my comfort zone, allowing new people to dig their roots into my life, like planting new trees on a road. It wasn’t that I never made new friends; the issue was allowing others to become more than an acquaintance in fear of cruel intentions. Reality is, there will always be someone that may hurt you and I knew if I kept going about with this impression in my head, I will never let anyone into my life. Lesson learned: sometimes it’s okay to be a little foolish. To really learn and get to know someone, you have to drop your defenses, listen without judgement, and be a friend without presumptions.

Relationship/The Self – Everyone loves status updates on “how are you doing” when you get out of a relationship. They are even more astonished, maybe confused, when you go through a break up and tell them you’re actually doing great and mean it! You have to mean it. Lesson learned: Ladies and gents, you’ve got to love yourself first, or no one else will (J.Cole – Crooked Smile, exactly what he said). If that ‘love’ is no longer there, don’t fret, the love from your friends and family is solid. The love for the self, your self worth, still remains. And if it isn’t, honey, you have to go find it! The moment you stop seeking attention from others because of a little loneliness and instead focus on becoming the best YOU, your light will shine. You’ll realize your accomplishments made for yourself, by yourself. Allotted this single-hood, there is plenty of time to be productive, be promiscuous, be lazy, have fun with friends and best of all, you’re going to sleep happy with who you are and your becomings, rather than feeling sad about what you had and why it didn’t work. We all know relationships come with healthy arguments and they’re much harder to deal with when you’re carrying the weight of not understanding yourself. Instead of dealing with one problem, you’re then digging into all the things that you previously left unresolved. The best relationships work out when you have a strong understanding and connection with yourself first.IMG_5421Tout Sweet Pâtisserie desserts and hot chocolate

With all that was said, I’m still learning and each day I’m loving what life has to offer. The good, the bad, and the ugly. Why not add yummy pictures of sweets I devoured to go along with the topic, it’s like we’re chatting over tea/coffee! I truly hope whoever out there dealing with a sucky situation can see light at the end of the tunnel. I posted this because I had people frequently ask me about these topics so I thought it’ll be helpful to shed a little of my findings. Seriously.. I’m already fighting to delete this because I really can’t believe you guys are gonna read this…… (freaking out in my mind)!! Oh well, “Got 99 problems but… __fill in the blank__  ain’t one” haha.

xo,tfny.

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go green

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cut out top: ASTR (Nordstrom)
plaid blouse: Equipment (similar)
skirt: Nordstrom
shoes: Urban Outfitters
clutch: vintage Dooney & Bourke

There’s been a lot of wind lately, and I’m not necessarily speaking to weather; there’s a lot of talk but no good action or a step to a right place going on in the news. You’ve guessed it. The shutdown continues and I encourage for you to take just a little bit of your time to keep updated with whatever you can. And dig, really dig… There’s always plenty of dirt when you start with a shovel and you will see there’s a lot you will find.
The good, the bad, and the ugly. Truth.

On a breezier note, leave it to me to have my hair a mess in the actual wind. Some girls, they look like a scene in Baywatch, others are like Pocahontas – Colors of the Winds, and then there’s me… beastly uproar mixed with a little of The Grudge. Luckily I had Tomas to capture the tamed, haha.

Tremendous thanks to the multi-faceted talent, that is Tomas, for taking these amazing shots.
Check out more of his work here at: LeftLane Photography

xo,tfny.

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Le Dîner à San Francisco

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jacket: Ashley (old)
tank: BCBG
pant: Kate Spade ‘Hallie’
boots: Dolce Vita ‘Java
bag: Vintage Gucci

Talk about extreme pop-up; not fully aware of the event’s elegance and its masquerade theme, I dashed home from work to throw on all white attire. Had I known, I would’ve dressed more up to part; at least I got the monochromic color memo down. I played it safe and wore what would transition to the pub crawl ensued. It was my first time attending Le Dîner, or any event similar. If you love decor, this is the all white dream turned reality because most of the table settings here were decorated so lavishly. Le Dîner à San Francisco is a flash dinner picnic held annually in only SF locations. The location is kept secret and revealed only a few hours before the start of the event. Mucho thanks to my girl friend Connie, for inviting me! It was the perfect, fancy way to start off the weekend that is now over *sad face.

xo,tfny.

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thelifegrubbing: berkeley bites

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Sundays are my fun days; their my favorite days along with Fridays and Saturdays. I assume that goes the same for most people. To do it right, I ended last week by going on a pretty yet long hike to then stroll around Berkeley for lots, I mean lots, of bites with my friend. Nothing like ending a good workout with gourmet potato puffs and white truffle fries at Gregoire. SRSLY. It didn’t stop there because it’s only proper to wash it down with some Philz Coffee. We then sat down at this cute sushi spot, Joshu-ya, and filled our bellies with yummy tuna and salmon rolls, uni, and ama-ebi! Wait, one can’t simply forget about dessert. I can’t even describe how much I loved Ici’s handmade organic scoops of heaven, I mean, sorbets. Excuse me while I wipe the drool off my keyboard and mention that the harvest moon was sitting full, big, and low this week. What a lovely site while jogging to dinner mid-week that I had to snap a shot. Is it just me or whenever I think these tall electrical wires, this song pops up in my head, “Through the fire, through whatever come what may. For a chance at loving you, I’d take it all away. Right down through the wire, even through the fire”. Okay, signing off with the throwback Kanye before I start rambling even more.

xo,tfny.

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thelifegrubbing: seafood diet

I love food. I especially love seafood, Asian, French, Latin, Italian cuisines… darn it, basically everything. Food rules everything around me. I mean, before even creating this blog, my Instagram comprised of foodporn after foodporn shots, with a splash of pretty views and an occasion outfit of the day. So, how can this be the Lifestyling if it weren’t accompanied with the Lifegrubbing aspects. I realized if I’m going to constantly try new places to eat, why not share it with you all on here as well. It’s probably refreshing to not have to look at my silly face on here all the time, haha, so let thelifegrubbing commence:

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albacore belly nigiri, ahi poke salad, oysters on a half shell, 16th st roll, mommy roll, birthday mochi icecream

Ah..I can’t stare too long at these pictures before my mouth starts to water. I was in Sacramento over the weekend for a girl friend’s birthday and she had her dinner at Sapporo Grill. Nice place and seriously delicious food, you can see for yourself. I’m always on a seefood diet with seafood and any type of food; I see food, I eat it! The rolls consisted of mouth watering goodness. The 16th st roll had seared salmon, scallops, scallions and tops with lemon. Then, the mommy roll was stuffed with lobster salad, shrimp tempura, snapper and drizzled in garlic sauce. I’m not even hungry right now, but I want this meal. right. meow.

xo, tfny.

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datum amore. ad defendendum

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Zara dress, Marc Jacobs bracelet, Vera Bradley wallet, Target booties, Marc Jacobs glasses (holding in hand)

Given in love. To defend. Given in love for protection. Whatever the translation on this Latin phrase may be on my bracelet, it is of that gist. The word “love”, thrown around so loosely yet the display and actions of love seem a bit harder to come by when watching the news or simply walking to work. But, I believe it’s still there and it’s all around, even if its hidden in the nooks and crannies. I’m a hopeless romantic. Just because I’m not currently in a relationship, it doesn’t mean all of a sudden I’m cynical. No way, we still have our relationships with so much more; love, to me is beyond just two people. It’s with family, friends, the self, strangers, across nations, and for everything.

What I meant with needing more love in the world is a friendly reminder to do a good deed for someone that you owe nothing to; it’s as simple as a gentle smile. If you’re having a lousy day, wouldn’t you want something randomly sweet to happen to turn that frown upside down? Well, I’m sure at least five other people around the world are feeling the same exact way. Anyways, some food for thought. Have a good day : )

xo, tfny.

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