food for thought: life is sweet

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Let’s just start off by saying this is so hard for me to do. To let people into the personal but I think or I hope from this, somewhere someone will find this helpful:

UH HUH, HONEY. We will all have our time to shine, I promise. Life is good. This year has honestly been the best year ever. Why? Because all my closest friends moved away from home, I dealt with a break up that revealed a lot of dirty truths, and sticky situations at the home front. Doesn’t that sound a lot like perfection? Cutting the sarcasm, everything happened the way it did and opened my eyes. What I learned:

Friendship – I would have never gotten closer to the people I am with today if I never broke down my barriers. I used to be the type to rely on my support system and stuck with the same bubble of friends. Maybe it’s a San Franciscan thing, we like our cliques. Having my closest friends further away, I built paths for me to break out of my comfort zone, allowing new people to dig their roots into my life, like planting new trees on a road. It wasn’t that I never made new friends; the issue was allowing others to become more than an acquaintance in fear of cruel intentions. Reality is, there will always be someone that may hurt you and I knew if I kept going about with this impression in my head, I will never let anyone into my life. Lesson learned: sometimes it’s okay to be a little foolish. To really learn and get to know someone, you have to drop your defenses, listen without judgement, and be a friend without presumptions.

Relationship/The Self – Everyone loves status updates on “how are you doing” when you get out of a relationship. They are even more astonished, maybe confused, when you go through a break up and tell them you’re actually doing great and mean it! You have to mean it. Lesson learned: Ladies and gents, you’ve got to love yourself first, or no one else will (J.Cole – Crooked Smile, exactly what he said). If that ‘love’ is no longer there, don’t fret, the love from your friends and family is solid. The love for the self, your self worth, still remains. And if it isn’t, honey, you have to go find it! The moment you stop seeking attention from others because of a little loneliness and instead focus on becoming the best YOU, your light will shine. You’ll realize your accomplishments made for yourself, by yourself. Allotted this single-hood, there is plenty of time to be productive, be promiscuous, be lazy, have fun with friends and best of all, you’re going to sleep happy with who you are and your becomings, rather than feeling sad about what you had and why it didn’t work. We all know relationships come with healthy arguments and they’re much harder to deal with when you’re carrying the weight of not understanding yourself. Instead of dealing with one problem, you’re then digging into all the things that you previously left unresolved. The best relationships work out when you have a strong understanding and connection with yourself first.IMG_5421Tout Sweet Pâtisserie desserts and hot chocolate

With all that was said, I’m still learning and each day I’m loving what life has to offer. The good, the bad, and the ugly. Why not add yummy pictures of sweets I devoured to go along with the topic, it’s like we’re chatting over tea/coffee! I truly hope whoever out there dealing with a sucky situation can see light at the end of the tunnel. I posted this because I had people frequently ask me about these topics so I thought it’ll be helpful to shed a little of my findings. Seriously.. I’m already fighting to delete this because I really can’t believe you guys are gonna read this…… (freaking out in my mind)!! Oh well, “Got 99 problems but… __fill in the blank__  ain’t one” haha.

xo,tfny.

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go green

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cut out top: ASTR (Nordstrom)
plaid blouse: Equipment (similar)
skirt: Nordstrom
shoes: Urban Outfitters
clutch: vintage Dooney & Bourke

There’s been a lot of wind lately, and I’m not necessarily speaking to weather; there’s a lot of talk but no good action or a step to a right place going on in the news. You’ve guessed it. The shutdown continues and I encourage for you to take just a little bit of your time to keep updated with whatever you can. And dig, really dig… There’s always plenty of dirt when you start with a shovel and you will see there’s a lot you will find.
The good, the bad, and the ugly. Truth.

On a breezier note, leave it to me to have my hair a mess in the actual wind. Some girls, they look like a scene in Baywatch, others are like Pocahontas – Colors of the Winds, and then there’s me… beastly uproar mixed with a little of The Grudge. Luckily I had Tomas to capture the tamed, haha.

Tremendous thanks to the multi-faceted talent, that is Tomas, for taking these amazing shots.
Check out more of his work here at: LeftLane Photography

xo,tfny.

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thelifegrubbing: berkeley bites

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Sundays are my fun days; their my favorite days along with Fridays and Saturdays. I assume that goes the same for most people. To do it right, I ended last week by going on a pretty yet long hike to then stroll around Berkeley for lots, I mean lots, of bites with my friend. Nothing like ending a good workout with gourmet potato puffs and white truffle fries at Gregoire. SRSLY. It didn’t stop there because it’s only proper to wash it down with some Philz Coffee. We then sat down at this cute sushi spot, Joshu-ya, and filled our bellies with yummy tuna and salmon rolls, uni, and ama-ebi! Wait, one can’t simply forget about dessert. I can’t even describe how much I loved Ici’s handmade organic scoops of heaven, I mean, sorbets. Excuse me while I wipe the drool off my keyboard and mention that the harvest moon was sitting full, big, and low this week. What a lovely site while jogging to dinner mid-week that I had to snap a shot. Is it just me or whenever I think these tall electrical wires, this song pops up in my head, “Through the fire, through whatever come what may. For a chance at loving you, I’d take it all away. Right down through the wire, even through the fire”. Okay, signing off with the throwback Kanye before I start rambling even more.

xo,tfny.

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ready. set. goal

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I suppose if it’s announced publicly, it must become a commitment! Over Labor Day weekend, the girls and I painted the city of angels red. We reveled at a pool party, which prior to baring into bikinis, I decided to feast like a king because: 1. I normally do and 2. I wanted to be able to last through the night. Sadly, it was quite inevitable after feeling bloated as a whale to stray from that self esteem, especially with a pool filled with coke-bottled, perfect-figured sharks swimming around. Pause. Nobody’s perfect. Before going about the “stfu, you’re skinny”, this IS a skinny girl rant because that is exactly the problem. I don’t want to be viewed as skinny, I want to be fit! They are two completely different concepts and I have a ways to go. As I speak for myself, I am nearly shapeless; if I stood next to Spongebob Squarepants, it will be difficult to tell us apart aside from his charming good looks.

The issue with my body type is that I am an apple where all my food ends up being stored around my abdominal, which is the hardest area to burn. Frankly, its triple times more difficult because I love food so much that the thought of a strict diet… Well, its not even thought. After scoping out the various body types by the poolside, I’ve decided I really need to put my foot, er.. fork, down.

Currently, I’m only working out enough to maintain. I know without ever changing my diet (or the excessive amount I eat), it’s going to take a lifetime before I see real results. Here, my goal comes in: it’s time to put more thought to eating cleaner and scheduling time to exercise more. No more cheat weeks; it has to remain a cheat day, as in one not five. This state of mind doesn’t spring because I think I am “fat”, rather I want to be healthy. I don’t want to start panting excessively when I speed walk up hills. I want to see some definition in my arms, abs, and let’s just throw in a bubble butt while we’re at it. Wimpy as it sounds, I want to be able to do a proper pull up without chair assistant, aside from reaching the bar, because at this point, simply dangling myself on the bar might not be the cutest look.

I’m not trying to do a disappearing act with myself, more so, I hope to start selling you tickets to the gun show. Kidding. Before I go over my head, I will give myself until my birthday, a full two months, to really push myself out of my comfort zone (being lazy). I’m not trying to be a body builder, I’ll be ecstatic with half the strength of one. So here’s to the extra sets of burpees, incorporating more weights, staying away from eating multiple cookies in one sitting and running that extra mile.

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Whether reading this motivates you to try to reach or push harder in your personal health goals or if you think this is petty, it’s absolutely fine. As long as I’m able to entertain a positive thought and promote even the littlest growth, we can be in this together. Let’s get it!

xo, tfny.

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datum amore. ad defendendum

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Zara dress, Marc Jacobs bracelet, Vera Bradley wallet, Target booties, Marc Jacobs glasses (holding in hand)

Given in love. To defend. Given in love for protection. Whatever the translation on this Latin phrase may be on my bracelet, it is of that gist. The word “love”, thrown around so loosely yet the display and actions of love seem a bit harder to come by when watching the news or simply walking to work. But, I believe it’s still there and it’s all around, even if its hidden in the nooks and crannies. I’m a hopeless romantic. Just because I’m not currently in a relationship, it doesn’t mean all of a sudden I’m cynical. No way, we still have our relationships with so much more; love, to me is beyond just two people. It’s with family, friends, the self, strangers, across nations, and for everything.

What I meant with needing more love in the world is a friendly reminder to do a good deed for someone that you owe nothing to; it’s as simple as a gentle smile. If you’re having a lousy day, wouldn’t you want something randomly sweet to happen to turn that frown upside down? Well, I’m sure at least five other people around the world are feeling the same exact way. Anyways, some food for thought. Have a good day : )

xo, tfny.

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M.I.A’s leaked documentary

Epitome of PROVOCATIVE and CONTROVERSIAL. I have loved her from the start, so you can say I’m obsessed. Always loved her for her fashion sense, creative music videos, crazy website, to the sound of her music and the content of her lyrics.

I’ve gotten comments from people who think her music was weird with “what is that”, “what are you listening to”… until Paper Planes came out and when she performed at the Superbowl. It then transcended to “Oh.. M.I.A, I know her! I like her!” so I’m glad that’s the spirit. She says things not many artist would! She opens up the can of worms, and brings topics into discussion ie. Politics. One of the most complicated subject for anyone to agree upon.

I’m not here to talk about parties (unless you mean a cocktail party) but I do love hearing opinions and being able to show people different sides to a story; playing devil’s advocate if you will. M.I.A for an average girl like me (and this may start to sound like adoring rant), stimulates the brain – thoughts of third world conditions, where on a given day, may not even be considered and frankly, that’s the shhhh… I like!

Watch the leaked documentary and see why I’ve dedicated this post all of her. Hats off to someone who has the balls to flick off national TV (superbowl), bring awareness regarding terrorism, women’s rights in Saudi Arabia and sex trade in China! You don’t have to understand it; just have a open mind! That’s what life is about, exploring and experiencing different things. Don’t go m.i.a. (missing in action), watch M.I.A.

xo, tfny.

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comfortable

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outfit: Gap double breasted shawl collar sweater, Cotton on harem pants jumpsuit, Forever 21 sweater, vintage Coach bag, Urban Outfitter boots. food: Trouble Coffee and Outerlands

Overcast on a summer’s day. Sleepy, squinty eyes. Comfortable attire and catching up over brunch with some good friends. With the latter taken place, the day’s not all too bad. So what, the leopard may be a bit much for some but I’m a sucker for harem pants and toned down with cozy neutrals, I can dig it.

If you haven’t noticed by now, I’ve been on a ever long streak of not shopping so all the previous and future posts will most likely be outfits utilizing what I already own. Don’t get me wrong since I’ve made a few misdemeanors, purchasing some newbies so it’s all about self control. Sadly, I believe that all the money I’ve saved myself from shopping is counteracted by my food consumption… and that’s another topic up for discussion.

I can’t wait for a wardrobe revamp but until then, this whole not buying new, has really pushed me to flip my drawers, trying to style pieces together. It’s a fun challenge I’ve accepted where I have my days when I think “why the hell did I buy this” and days when I’m like “oh yeah… forgot how cute this was”. Point is, it allows me be more aware, economical and sustainable to our environment. Rather than constantly in with the new-new, I’m a big advocate for thrifting (before the thrift shop song popularizing it) and just finding ways to ‘recycle’ your clothing – whether it be re-thinking how you wear it, turning things into a DIY project, donating, etc. Hope it can inspire you to dig through your closet and pay a visit to some of the old and mixing it with your new.

xo,tfny

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