food for thought: life is sweet

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Let’s just start off by saying this is so hard for me to do. To let people into the personal but I think or I hope from this, somewhere someone will find this helpful:

UH HUH, HONEY. We will all have our time to shine, I promise. Life is good. This year has honestly been the best year ever. Why? Because all my closest friends moved away from home, I dealt with a break up that revealed a lot of dirty truths, and sticky situations at the home front. Doesn’t that sound a lot like perfection? Cutting the sarcasm, everything happened the way it did and opened my eyes. What I learned:

Friendship – I would have never gotten closer to the people I am with today if I never broke down my barriers. I used to be the type to rely on my support system and stuck with the same bubble of friends. Maybe it’s a San Franciscan thing, we like our cliques. Having my closest friends further away, I built paths for me to break out of my comfort zone, allowing new people to dig their roots into my life, like planting new trees on a road. It wasn’t that I never made new friends; the issue was allowing others to become more than an acquaintance in fear of cruel intentions. Reality is, there will always be someone that may hurt you and I knew if I kept going about with this impression in my head, I will never let anyone into my life. Lesson learned: sometimes it’s okay to be a little foolish. To really learn and get to know someone, you have to drop your defenses, listen without judgement, and be a friend without presumptions.

Relationship/The Self – Everyone loves status updates on “how are you doing” when you get out of a relationship. They are even more astonished, maybe confused, when you go through a break up and tell them you’re actually doing great and mean it! You have to mean it. Lesson learned: Ladies and gents, you’ve got to love yourself first, or no one else will (J.Cole – Crooked Smile, exactly what he said). If that ‘love’ is no longer there, don’t fret, the love from your friends and family is solid. The love for the self, your self worth, still remains. And if it isn’t, honey, you have to go find it! The moment you stop seeking attention from others because of a little loneliness and instead focus on becoming the best YOU, your light will shine. You’ll realize your accomplishments made for yourself, by yourself. Allotted this single-hood, there is plenty of time to be productive, be promiscuous, be lazy, have fun with friends and best of all, you’re going to sleep happy with who you are and your becomings, rather than feeling sad about what you had and why it didn’t work. We all know relationships come with healthy arguments and they’re much harder to deal with when you’re carrying the weight of not understanding yourself. Instead of dealing with one problem, you’re then digging into all the things that you previously left unresolved. The best relationships work out when you have a strong understanding and connection with yourself first.IMG_5421Tout Sweet Pâtisserie desserts and hot chocolate

With all that was said, I’m still learning and each day I’m loving what life has to offer. The good, the bad, and the ugly. Why not add yummy pictures of sweets I devoured to go along with the topic, it’s like we’re chatting over tea/coffee! I truly hope whoever out there dealing with a sucky situation can see light at the end of the tunnel. I posted this because I had people frequently ask me about these topics so I thought it’ll be helpful to shed a little of my findings. Seriously.. I’m already fighting to delete this because I really can’t believe you guys are gonna read this…… (freaking out in my mind)!! Oh well, “Got 99 problems but… __fill in the blank__  ain’t one” haha.

xo,tfny.

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datum amore. ad defendendum

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Zara dress, Marc Jacobs bracelet, Vera Bradley wallet, Target booties, Marc Jacobs glasses (holding in hand)

Given in love. To defend. Given in love for protection. Whatever the translation on this Latin phrase may be on my bracelet, it is of that gist. The word “love”, thrown around so loosely yet the display and actions of love seem a bit harder to come by when watching the news or simply walking to work. But, I believe it’s still there and it’s all around, even if its hidden in the nooks and crannies. I’m a hopeless romantic. Just because I’m not currently in a relationship, it doesn’t mean all of a sudden I’m cynical. No way, we still have our relationships with so much more; love, to me is beyond just two people. It’s with family, friends, the self, strangers, across nations, and for everything.

What I meant with needing more love in the world is a friendly reminder to do a good deed for someone that you owe nothing to; it’s as simple as a gentle smile. If you’re having a lousy day, wouldn’t you want something randomly sweet to happen to turn that frown upside down? Well, I’m sure at least five other people around the world are feeling the same exact way. Anyways, some food for thought. Have a good day : )

xo, tfny.

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city of love

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Trouve studded leather jacket (similar), Foreign Exchange dress, Lia Sophia necklace, Alexander Wang shoes

This is a post that encompasses a bit of my favorites: my Alexander Wangs (oldie but a goodie), my studded leather jacket (also another oldie. With both paired together, I can’t help feeling a little badass), and of course, my city. Attended an event held at the Fairmont hotel and the view of the city from the penthouse was spectacular! There’s just something about San Francisco; it should very well be further known as the ‘City of Love’. Speaking of, yay for love –  same sex marriage passed and Pride just happened over the weekend; the town was painted with all the colors of the rainbow. We were even blessed with a sunset that transformed the sky into a massive rainbow taking over the world before night falls. Absolutely magical. I’ve lived in the city all my life and yet the views never grow old. Our skyline is gorgeous and maybe I’m a bit biased because there is really no other city like SF. That I can say with confidence.. Jeezy would say, “I put on for my city”.

xo,tfny.

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“do what you love”

Just some inspirational and motivational little words.

I volunteered some time a few days ago, keep in mind I just got back from Vegas the day prior and I did it anyways! (might not have been on my A game haha but hey!) I completely crashed when I got home but it was a good experience none the less because why? Volunteers are sexy.

Volunteering is sexy… We tend to become robotic to our day to day routines, heads down and absorbed into our work-life that sometimes it’s really nice to go do something different from the usual (unless you’re avid and usually volunteering, high five!). There are so many ways you lend a helping hand to someone or something in need. It’s also a great way to meet new people and learn new things and at the end of the day, you’ll feel rewarded. You’ve just made someone’s day better so go out there and find an organization or a school that might be of your interest!

Since I officially own a shirt that says YOLO, with a hashtag on it.. I will no longer poke fun of the ridiculousness. Just kidding, I still will.

xo,tiff.